ditched（Abandoned My Journey of Getting Over a Toxic Relationship）

Abandoned: My Journey of Getting Over a Toxic Relationship

Ending a relationship is never easy. The decision to ditch someone is not only emotionally grueling but can also have a long-lasting impact on one's mental and physical health. I have been through a toxic relationship, and the after-effects of the same have been far from easy. In this article, I share my story of ditching a toxic relationship and the journey of healing that followed.

The Signs of A Toxic Relationship

My relationship started like any other. Like most couples, we were happy, affectionate and in love. But slowly things started to change. He became possessive, jealous and disrespectful. He would mentally and emotionally manipulate me and make me feel guilty for things that were not my fault. He would make me question my worth and make me doubt myself. The constant chaos and drama in our relationship became my new normal, and I stopped seeing the signs of an abusive relationship. It took me a long time to realise that I was in a toxic relationship, and I needed to get out of it.

The Journey of Ditching a Toxic Relationship

Ditching a toxic relationship is not a one-step process. It takes courage, strength and patience to leave someone who has been a significant part of your life. I started my journey of breaking away by first seeking help. I reached out to my friends, family and even sought the help of a therapist. Talking to someone who could understand my situation helped me to accept the reality of being in a toxic relationship. It also gave me the strength to take the first step.

The next step was to cut ties with my toxic partner completely. I blocked him on all social media accounts, deleted his number and cut all forms of communication. This was not easy, as he would make attempts to contact me, but I had to stick to my decision. I started focusing on self-care, like taking up hobbies that made me happy, indulging in activities that made me feel good and connecting with loved ones who uplifted me. Slowly but surely, I started to rebuild myself.

The Journey of Healing

The journey of healing was the most difficult part of my journey. It took me a long time to let go of the hurt, anger and pain that came with my toxic relationship. But I realised that for me to move on, I had to let go of the past. The first step to healing was forgiveness. I forgave myself for allowing myself to be in a toxic relationship and forgave him for creating a toxic environment. Once I let go of my anger, I felt a sense of peace and calmness that I had never experienced before.

I also started focusing on self-improvement. I took courses on self-development, read books that inspired me and started to meditate regularly. These practices helped me to gain clarity, focus and direction in my life. I started to discover who I was and what I wanted out of life. This epiphany was the turning point of my healing process. I started to rebuild my life, one step at a time.

In conclusion, ditching a toxic relationship is never easy, but it is a decision that can change one's life for the better. It takes strength, courage and patience to leave someone who has been a significant part of your life. But once you do, you open yourself up to a world of possibilities. You rediscover yourself, your passion and your purpose. You learn to love oneself and to give love selflessly. You learn that true love is not possessive, controlling or manipulative. True love is respectful, kind and patient. So, if you are in a toxic relationship, don't be afraid to ditch it. You are worth it.